Friday, February 1, 2008

"I'm just a housewife"

I was watching Perfect Housewife the other night, and it struck me how often we put down our occupation, and therefore, ourselves. One of the hapless housewives featured on the show was asked how she described herself to people, and she shrugged, looked down at the floor, and said, "I'm just a housewife." How many of us have been guilty of this? I know I have, on numerous occasions, said exactly this, accompanied by an apologetic little shrug of the shoulders. I foudn this especially true in the period after I left paid employment. It was as if I had defined myself by what I did for a living - I wasn't Sarah, the person; I was Sarah, the 'merchandise manager with Australia's largest department store'. Suddenly, I was at a loss, as surely being a housewife could not measure up to that.

After a few months of being at home and being unhappy, I stumbled across a book called Happy Housewives by Darla Shine. While a lot of it is a little too"perky" for my taste, it did make me realise that I needed to take pride in what I do - surely creating a happy and healthy home and life for my husband and child was just as important - no, make that more important, than anything else I could be doing. Now when people ask me what I do, I say with pride, "I am a housewife".

Today, I encourage all of you out there to banish the phrase "I'm just a housewife" and start saying what it is we do with pride, because we're not just housewives, we're fantastic housewives!!


lilmamauv6 said...

Just wanted to say that I love your blog. I am a mom to 6. I am ususally at home with them. I also clean houses every so often. Keep up the good work. I like your emphasis on keeping yourself together even with babes. Sometimes you feel guilty and such for putting yourself first. Even if it's just for 5 min. So, thanks for helping us to realize it's soo...important.

Chic Mummy said...

thanks for your kind words, lilmamauv6! Wow, i don't know how you do it with 6! I think with 6 kids, its even more important to carve out even 5 minutes a day, just for you.

sheridan said...

I love your blog! I have been a SAHM for 16 years now, and will be one until the last child (i only have 2~) is at least 16 as well. Kids NEED their moms! I used to feel a bit ashamed that i was not part of the work world, as i used to be, but i really do consider it a privelege that i am able to be home with my children and able to take pride and care in making my house a home. A few years ago i started telling people " I am raising my children myself, and am a Professional Homemaker" !!!! It makes me feel pride in my work and hold my head up! :) I am so happy to have found your site through Style for the SAHM which i love, too. Thank you for sharing!!!!

Anonymous said...

In the Jewish tradition, the husband recites a poem to his "housewife" called "a woman of valour" telling how important and honored is her position in the family and in the community. My Russian husband's cousin always says, "a happy wife is a happy life." and when I was at a russian dinner party, all the husbands stood up and said "the first toast is to our wives." and they listed the many ways in which wives keep the boat floating and happy.
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